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Name: Lindsay
Birthday: 2/12/1982
Gender: Female
Interests: spending time with friends and fam, reading, photography of nature, studying French or about how cool God is, lounging on rainy days and talking to random people
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7/30/2004
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| so things are getting better and the communication is better between myself and the people / person in the last post. I think they just want everything to be perfect, and those who know me know that the typical "perfect" is not "perfect" in my eyes. so things are getting talked out and it is going very well. probably due to a lot of praying and thinking before I speak. (thanks God!) anyway- tomorrow I am going to officially reserve the date and it will be Aug 11. And Amy can come b/c she'll be back from France and moving the next day to Cali and won't have to fly back just for the wedding. now, Tony is off that weekend as of right now, and hopefully then too. but nothing was available on the 18th that was big enough or "ok-ed" by my mom- she doesn't like dirt apparently... but I do have to agree - clean bathrooms are a plus for a wedding. I wouldn't want grandma afraid to go in it!
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| so what is so stressful about getting married? is it planning the ceremony, music, reception, dj, caterer, flowers, time of day, date, car, ring, budget, dress, invitations, guest list, dresses & tuxes, etc etc etc?
NO!!!
That is the fun part - the stressful part is dealing with family members who want everything to look only the way THEY want it to look, and actually fight you on how you want things to go/be at YOUR OWN WEDDING! so every idea I have for my own wedding is obviously dumb and tacky and too non-traditional and so that means it is going to turn out awful -simply because it is what Brandon and I think would be cool or look nice or is within OUR budget. funny how people offer to pay for things if it results in changing it to be how they like it- not selfish motivation there! rather than offer to help with something that is needed there is offers to change our minds to be more like theirs. why the "well, if we are paying for_______ than it will not be like this!" well, my advice - as rational as I can think is -1) don't pay for it we'll manage fine and it will be beautiful or 2) don't come if you can't get over the fact that you would rather have different colors for the dresses or think we should have different centerpieces on the tables....
why is it that some of the people I care most about are the only ones who are fighting me to do things their way? any stress I have comes from this- and now I understand why people elope.
and how can I be more like Christ in this situation? how do I show love and respect and grace when everything is "well, now...you can't do that..."
answer: prayer and drawing closer to the Lord in alone time. My sanity rests in Him alone. and I see every day how much I need Him in everything- especially in planning this wedding. and praise the Lord for Brandon!!!!
He is so patient and loving and helpful and encourageing and calming. thank you anyone else who has been praying too- thank you! | | |
| Hello everyone: This weekend has been extremely busy and crazy, and so I apologize if I haven't called you yet. But feel free to call me when you get this. So, in case I have not talked to you personally about this : I am VERY excited to announce that Brandon and I are now engaged to be married! We are "tentatively" looking at August 18th, 2007... yes, this August.... 180 days from today. Unless there is a major reason to do it another day it will be this day.
so, this all happened last Thursday, February 15th . He were staying at his grandmas house Wed. night and at 5 AM I was awoken to breakfast in bed, and it was REALLY Good! Then, at about 5:35 AM we left to watch the sunrise at the wilmont wilderness Center, (where we had our 2nd date.) When we arrived he told me to stay in the car for a minute and he took a shovel out into the snow. a couple minutes later he returned an led me with my eyes closed to this" ledge thingy". He had shoveled a path to watch the Sunrise and when he got onto the ledge thing
we looked at the sun (and froze) And then he got out a sweetness poem that was to incredibly sweet and cute! At the end it said Something about marrying him & at that point he spun me around, got down on one Knee a proposed. And... behind him, in the snow in huge letters he had written the words, "will you MARRY ME?" very nicely thought out. :) He was so cute and it was snowy and beautiful in the morning light.
Although we had talked about it I didn't expect it to happen then! But then it did and I am very happy it did. He is the single most amazing man I have ever met in my life. I am amazed and Shocked that God could create all I want in a husband and put all those qualities in him. Wow.
So, there it is. The ring is gorgeous if you ask me plain (my style) with a quote from ECC 4:9 "Two are better than one..." it has been our theme since we started dating. "because they produce more return for their work."Hey. got to get going. talk to you soon!
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| if active listening means showing the person you're talking to
with little cues to let them know you're listening,( i.e.: eye contact,
saying hummmm or uh huh, or asking questions related to what they are
saying to get more information-ergo showing you care about the
conversaton, etc.) what does active praying mean?
I would imagine it would mean that 1-I am praying for someone actively,
which would be requiring some sort of an action, such as the idea of
lifting anothers burdens and placing them upon my own shoulders; and 2
that I ask about situation to both to remind them that they are being
prayed for and that they are cared about more than a one-time
conversation regarding how they've been lately. I would also say
that this should not be done (tell them that they are being prayed for)
unless one is actually praying for them PRESENTLY not a week or month
ago. 1- It would be lying to do so and 2- It would make it
look as though prayer was worthless because God isn't answering
the prayers we are "supposedly" praying for. Very
misleading to be deceiving people like that. That makes God
appear uncaring because we are trying to make ourselves look like "good
Christians" who always remember
to pray for people. yeah right. say it if it is true, otherwise
it is not a good idea to lead on others especially non-Christian who
think its nuts to pray anyway. not good.
So- that seems a bit unhappy in the end of that there post... I guess I
can easily see sin in the lives of others when I am guilty of doing it
in my own life. I hate it and although I do not think it to be a
way to make me feel better and that I am caring for another, it is in
all reality. that stinks. I do try to remember to pray for
people, but sometimes those prayers come and go and I remember it when
I talk to the person. This could be why God has laid on my heart
actively praying. I think it is howHe is teaching me about being
His hands and feet and not just a voice in a comfortable space.
He rocks, I don't. Our Rock rocks...and when I get shown
something and "jabbed" by that Rock it is hard to walk away without
being effected. could be another reason He is called the
Rock.
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| So- on my quest to figure out life- I was shown yet another example of how life is fragile and needs to be taken care. Here- is my first plant -besides the bamboo that I water bimonthly. I bought him for only 50 cents!!!! He is sad with his poor brown outlined leaves, needs some lovin' and is somewhat just like the pathetic Christmas tree in Charlie Brown Christmas. - I wanted to call him Hermie because he, like the Hermie in the other Christmastime favorite- Rudolph the Red-nosed Reindeer (the elf who wants to be a dentist)- is little and slightly fragile, yet is strong in his dream to become a dentist- "why am I such a misfit, I am not just a nitwit. you can't fire me- I quit...why don't I fit in?". And so is Hermie- yet soon, after regaining his strength from some love from me- he will solely go by his nickname- Dracimus the Destroyer. Maybe I'll change it to something else sweeter, but in the present moment I will leave it as is.
on another note- God is sweet and is opening and closing some very obvious doors and drawing me closer... still excited and wondering where we'll end up. wherever it is - He is definitely trustable and worth pursuing. right on, right on.
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